04.28.08
“Do you ever see your ex?”
…says my doctor to me before i leave her office today.
To which I reply with a “no”
Well, as it turns out, he and his wife have had a baby (boy) and I guess he’s just over a year old now. Congrats to them, I hope they are happy.
Correction: I hope she (wifey) and the baby are happy. I fear he treats her in much the same way he treated me. And most know…that was bad.
He (shall remain nameless) has a history of relationships that don’t last more than about 7 years, and the girls keep getting younger:
The one before me lasted about 7 years before she wised-up and left his ass; they were engaged and he was 3 years older than her.
Then there’s me. We lasted about 7 years too, we were together for 3 when we got engaged and married (3 month engagement). The marriage lasted 4 years and 3 months when I finally escaped* (see About Fast Her for explanation of ‘escape’). We were married, obviously, and he was 7 years older than me.
Now there’s this one. Let’s see, our divorce was final in September of 2001, they were married in January of 2003 (New Years, I think). She’s 11 years younger than he is. He’s 40 now.
My prediction was that he’d have to have a baby with this one so that he could keep her around for longer than the 7 year mark. I left him in September of 2000, they were together by March of 2001 (maybe before, but that’s when I met her). So, if the baby is about a year old, my prediction was pretty right-on…at least in terms of timing.
As I said before, I hope she and the baby are happy as I fear he hasn’t changed much. However, if he has changed and treats her well, I hope that they as a collective family unit are happy and that they have a healthy and loving future.
As for me, I am not regrettful one single bit that we divorced. That period of my life propelled me to look inwards, learn about myself, and work towards becoming a stronger, more independent woman. If not for that time of my life, I may not have been so driven to finish my BA, nor to move on to a Master’s. I also don’t think I would have ever gotten into riding motorcycles, something which I love and cannot imagine not doing. There are many things I’ve experienced since then that I can easily attribute to the drive I felt to change my situation. If not for that situation, I quite possibly may have never done any of those things.
I’m mostly happy…most of the time. So again, congratulations!